JESUS & JEANS SIZE

A domestic goddess I am not.

I have a hard time remembering much about my life before we had kids. What did we eat? Who prepared it? What did I do with all that excess energy, sleep and time? What was it like having unstained shirts? I have no idea.

But I now know this, when you live with three men (of any size) they need to eat quite often. This was a quite disturbing discovery for me, but one that I am slowly embracing.

I never really thought much about my weight until my freshman year of college. I guess because I played volleyball, ran a little track in high school and lived in the boondocks of Connecticut (no fast food really) that it was never really a big issue. But then in college, living in the rainy Midwest with a double major, socializing in the cafeteria, long hours in the practice chambers and pizza just a call away, I gained at least the freshman 15. And when you’re 5 feet tall, that 15 looks like 50.

Then, I started traveling w/ a music group for the college. We ate out or partook of endless potluck buffets. After college, I continued to travel for a living and have eaten my way through a good deal of the restaurants throughout America. My jeans kept getting tighter and I didn’t get any taller. I decided to take up running again and learned to eat better on the road. Back in the 90’s salads were just making their way onto fast food menus and I did my best to battle the bulge while living on the road and sleeping in a bunk on a bus.

After living in India for a while and living off of a jar of peanut butter for the good part of a year, I couldn’t wait to come back home to food I loved. I think when I was pregnant with my first son was the first time I started thinking about food not for how it made me look but what it meant for my health. Maybe diet coke and a bagel from Dunkin Donuts shouldn’t be the only nutritional value of my day. Instead of eating according to jeans-size maintenance, I thought about what nutrients that little bun in the oven needed. I wish I had thought more about myself in this life-giving way all those years prior. But, then again, as Anne Lamott said

“when we get to heaven, we will discover that the appearance of our butts and our skin was 127th on the list of what mattered on this earth.”

But the aha moment for me was when my husband taught at our church on a book he had just finished entitled THE BLUE ZONES. It’s all about people from all over the world who live the longest and what their health habits are. He correlated our caring for our bodies as a missional endeavor. More years alive, able-bodied on this earth means more years to love, give, show kindness—to DO something and enjoy our lives. I know it sounds simple but the wires finally crossed in my understanding that even what I eat is a spiritual practice. Me hitting snooze and not going on a run is a spiritual decision. All of a sudden, my health and pursuit of it transcended jean sizing and became about something God sized. Kingdom sized, really. Longevity isn’t necessarily in my hands alone, but I have a lot to do with how long what I’ve been given lasts.

I know that probably sounds extreme, but even my gardening, food shopping and time in the kitchen prepping a meal has become a deeply spiritual experience for me. I put music on I love. I pour myself a glass of red wine (antioxidants, of course), I get my kids involved in picking the basil from the backyard and helping me prep the food. My husband and I even made our own pendant lights hanging over the kitchen counter to create a little atmosphere. It’s changed my perspective and my loathing of kitchen related duties.

BAKED WILD SALMON W/ ALMOND LIME SAUCE & LIME/MINT QUINOA SALAD

Last night we made a great meal together. I’m looking for recipes that utilize the backyard full of herbs we are cultivating. I have mint and parsley in massive abundance right now and made a Baked Wild Salmon with almond-lime sauce accompanied by a yummy Lime/Mint Quinoa Salad and steamed Julienned Carrots.

I found the Salmon recipe in a new magazine I’ve been subscribing to: Whole Living. The subscription usually runs $10-15 a year but here’s a coupon to get it for only $4.29! I’m not a paid spokesperson, just sharin the love. The lime/mint quinoa salad is from the Gluten Free Goddess.

My desk is right in the kitchen so I love using my computer as my recipe book! My 4 year old helped me toast the almonds and make the yogurt sauce for the salmon- I find when they help me cook they are more interested in eating the food. One of my newest favorite sources for recipes is my friend Jenna’s site: WHOLESOME BITS. She too is feeding a lot of men in her home and I LOVE her passion for God, health and delicious food.

So what about you…what are you making for dinner tonight? What are your favorite resources for recipes? How does spirituality play into your meal planning? What are your cooking/shopping/prepping rituals? What is your motivation in choosing what you do/do not eat or drink? What’s your jeans size (just kidding)? Got a healthy recipe to share? What are you growing in your garden?

DEATH TO THE CONFESSIONAL BOOTH 

Let me premise this by telling you that I come from a long line of Irish Catholics. I was christened as a baby in the Catholic church by my Catholic-schooled mother and Catholic wedded parents. I have the freckles and childhood memories of never-ending masses in Massachusetts cathedrals to prove my heritage. But now, thirty-some-odd years later, I boldly proclaim: Death To the Confessional Booth.

Why, you ask? As a now non-denominational church planter, pastor’s wife, worship leader and, might I say, somewhat seasoned humanitarian, I find this wooden curtained box of anonymity more of a barrier to people knowing God’s forgiveness than facilitating it. But that little box-o-privacy is what people want from the church. Maybe because they’ve seen it on TV or they grew up this way.

It’s a tactile, low-hurdle exercise that makes us feel better. And isn’t that what faith is all about? Self-comfort?

We tell a man (whom we call “Father) our sins, we never see his face and he tells us how to make penance and then “go and sin no more”.

It’s clean and neat and most of all, impersonal.

Our church-plant Watershed is in an urban neighborhood. We’re not a family church. We have families in our community, but for some reason we still haven’t found the chapter in the Bible on the church revolving around family programming. So, we have single moms, divorcees, lots of single people, widows and widowers, some families who look like ours and others with two dads or two moms. We have the homeless and CEOs, the unemployed and unemployable.

It’s terribly messy and altogether breathtaking.

The ONLY transformation that we have seen in our seven years as a church is that which has taken place through the interwoven connectedness and soul-baring vulnerability of community centered on God. Hands-offness would get us no where in this city.

So this week, when several people with whom we have trekked through some serious tragedy and baggage threatened to leave our community because we would not be a confessional booth church, I was reminded that this is a mountain we will die on.  And, we could actually die on it. It’s not a popular mountain by any means.  But, we as the church do no one any service by providing them impersonal, anonymous, secretive venues to vent their wrongdoing. Nor do we help by listening without eye contact or concocting lists for people to check off to make amends for their dark passengers. Hat tip to Dexter.

Jesus asked questions. He looked into people’s eyes. He sat in their slovenly homes, drank water at their wells, refilled wine glasses at their weddings…He was a hands on, eye-contact, personal kind of guy. He invited us into carrying each other’s burdens, going extra miles, getting our hands dirty. We will never be the kind of church that helps you keep your dirty secret. If you tell it to us, we will, in love, push you toward community. Toward restoration and healing and vulnerability and most of all, transformation through Jesus. We will look you in the eye and be there for the long haul. Forgiveness and healing could possibly begin behind a curtain, but it can’t end there. We won’t just listen to you drop your suitcase and watch you walk away a little lighter without helping you unpack that bad boy and air that dirty laundry out in healthy and heart-churning yet mending ways.

It’s not just the Watershed way. It’s the Jesus way. So, this Catholic-christened freckled girl is heading out with a pocketed pack of matches ready to torch the confessionals that we as the church might erect to make space for a King and a Kingdom I believe in with all my heart and soul. It might not fill the pews (not that we have pews) but it brings the Kingdom. So church leaders, I beg you to rip down the curtain, smash the box…in fact get out of the church building altogether and stare into the eyes of those who truly need reconciliation. Go and confessional booth no more.

SomethingSmith 

I was given a fabulous book years ago by my then boss, Ron Martoia, entitled THE SUBSTANCE OF STYLE. In it author Virgina Postrel defines art as “making special.” I continue, over a decade later, to find myself magnetized to that definition as an artist. Lately, I’ve noticed the noun creative surface. “Are you a creative?” “Come to our conference for creatives!” Honestly, I believe with all my heart that we’re all born “creatives” (although I strongly dislike the use of that word as a noun). Whether or not we tap into that innate creativity is what makes us an artist. Here’s the story of the artist I live with. 

What do you create rather than consume that makes your heart skip a beat? Art is an outpouring of our soul. Sometimes what we make special can then become utilitarian, but it truly begins in that place in our souls where passion is derived. Where our heart skips a beat. Where we envision, lose sleep, spend money and sweat profusely to create rather than consume. What we do, as Natalie put it in Garden State, when we feel completely unoriginal.

So, when I married my husband a decade ago who is a self-proclaimed “non-creative”, linear-thinking, practical, minimalistic guy…sparks flew in more ways than one. Scott is a systems guy. A planner. He is so organized that the first time my family saw his place when we were dating they thought he had just moved in (he’d lived there for years, he’s just that minimalistic). To him, the Apple Store is cluttered. He and I share interests, not a ton, and we share a similar world/faith view. That’s vital. We owned/rode a Harley together for years and had a ball. But every time I headed out the door to go to band practice or a concert, I’d have this inkling that he still needed to find a way to channel his untapped creativity and energy (other than throwing my stuff out when I’m not looking).

FATEFUL SANDALS   Then, about three years ago, after owning many a vintage leather bag, spending countless hours stalking vintage leather bag auctions on ebay and then finally a fateful visit to the Paul Taylor custom leather sandal shop in Asheville, Scott finally discovered his outlet. While talking to Paul in his shop, I’d never seen his eyes as wide. The smell of leather. Crazy looking tools. Worn benches. He found his bridge from the THEM to the US of the artistry world. It had been under his nose, on his feet and over his shoulder for almost a lifetime: LEATHER.

What started as this dopp kit he had always dreamed of that he cut and hand stitched on our back porch soon became his passion unfurled. It was effortless for him. He never took a class (other than over-examining leather accessories for a lifetime). He put this vegetable tanned leather little boxy bag together in no time and wondered if other people would like it as much as he did. He posted it on Etsy and a businessman from NYC called and placed the first order. He asked if Scott would make some custom totes for his non-profit donors. Before we knew it, our back screened-in porch became a leather-hide filled workshop, ebay and etsy orders began trickling in. And, most of all, Scott was energized by it. And this time, not because of the spreadsheets and cash flow, but because he loved CREATING the items and crafting them.

And now, a few years later, he has his own workshop, a few guys helping him in the shop and his business, named after our sons, ColsenKeane is thriving. Of course, being in the lucrative “business” of church-planting that we are, having part-time work has always been a necessity for us. But this is more than work; we love just sitting over a cup of steaming coffee co-dreaming together about our making special endeavors. It’s really deepened our marriage because we’ve found some common ground. I know nothing about leather (which doesn’t keep me from giving my opinion of course) and he knows nothing of composing music, but we share this fire in our belly about making something new that we care about. It’s amazing. And I’m so stinking proud of him.

So this week, tell me about what kind of smith you are. My husband discovered at almost age 40 that he’s a leathersmith. After a lifetime of pursuing music, I’m discovering I’m a bit of a humanitarian/faith-journey wordsmith. My sons’ Pre-K/Kindergarten teacher Kelly is a 4 and 5 year old child-learningsmith. She had my son reciting and loving poetry and writing in cursive and cooking meals at age 4!  My sister-in-law Mel is a ambiance-smith. She can pillage through a flea market and transform any space into something Martha Stewart would envy. My friend Karina is a cuisine-smith (and bead-smith…God doled out extra gifting to that woman) – without formal training, she has always dabbled in growing, canning, prepping and creating meals that are unparalleled and now owns her own restaurant (which I wish I lived closer to!). My sis Lauren Rosenau, after studying business in college and traveling the world, discovered she’s a wedding-capturingsmith. She’s fantastic. She could talk about brides and settings on her camera ’til the cows come home. It’s her heart-pounding art.

WIN A JOURNAL!   So tell me what kind of smith you are (or you’re aspiring to be) here in the comments section and I’ll enter you in my first ever drawing on this blog: the winner will be chosen with the random number generator to win this ColsenKeane custom made leather moleskin journal cover. Winner will be chosen at 10pm, MONDAY APRIL 19. I have one of these journals myself and I love it. It gets better with age. Sort of like the hot guy in the video featured above. :) So, tell me about yourselves and your discoveries of your creative inner-self. Even if it involves spreadsheet creation, you’re an artist too.

ColsenKeane Leather Moleskin Journal Cover

PLAYING HARDBALL
Each year I’m given the honor of speaking for our annual Stogies & Stilettos series at our church, Watershed. It’s something I stress over and love all at the same time. I didn’t grow up in church settings where women were given a voice in church other than answering phones, so to have the opportunity to speak to both men and women and represent the heart of what we girls experience/struggle with is always moving for me.

This year, Romans 8 seemed to surface for me in planning my teaching. When the word “righteousness” is mentioned in Rom 8:10 (But if Christ is in you then even though your body is subject to death because of sin, the Spirit gives life because of righteousness.”)  it’s the same Greek word used in Exodus and Hosea referring to God’s dikaiosune (his covenant fidelity). We have life because God keeps his promises. He follows through. He has bound himself to humanity and rescues us even when we seem unrescuable. This is not the “righteousness” shoved down your throat by someone waving a gospel tract: one that involves filthy rags or lack thereof. This is unwavering, constant LOYALTY. To YOU.

In a time of covenants going by the wayside, in the wilderness that is relationships and love, this one word, dikaiosune, goes so against the grain of everything we know…Throwing our hands in the air. Giving up. Betrayal. Falling out of love. Calling it quits. Covenant fidelity knows no such thing. Can you imagine God is actually loyal to you?

The picture above is one I snapped at Scott’s Grandma Hofert’s house in Raleigh this past Thanksgiving. It makes more sense once you hear it in context of the message. She flat out inspires me and I think she’ll do the same for you. Girls, may you play hardball at every age. Click below to listen to the talk:

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Leave A Comment, Written on March 3rd, 2012 , Uncategorized

KINGDOM & THE KITCHEN TABLE

table handcrafted by my good friends at 2nd Story Wood Co.

www.2ndstorywood.com & www.stevecookphotography.com

My friends at Restoration Living asked me to be a guest writer for their blog. One of the biggest things I’m learning now 6 1/2 years into our church planting experience is that the Communion Table needs to be moved. Here’s my blog entry for Restoration Living.  I encourage you to follow them on Twitter & Facebook as well – they are doing great things and will resource you spiritually in a holistic and beautifully creative way. 

 

Leave A Comment, Written on January 30th, 2012 , Uncategorized

HOW DO YOU WRITE? 

This past November I finally read a book that’s been sitting on my shelf for years: Anne Lamott’s Bird By Bird. I devoured it on a few plane rides and found myself laughing outloud. If you write or create in anyway, this book, like really all of Anne’s writing for me, will be like nectar for your soul.

She unearths her own writing/creative process…and being in the season I am with writing for various formats as my job I JUST LOVED THIS. I think you will too. And to anyone who, like me, works from home, this can sum up our daily experience.

“…You put a piece of paper in the typewriter, or you turn on your computer and bring up the right file, and then you stare at if for an hour or so….You look at the ceiling, and over at the clock, yawn, and stare at the paper again. Then, with your fingers poised on the keyboard, you squint at an image that is forming in your mind-a scene, a locale, a character, whatever- and you try to quiet your mind so you can hear what that landscape or character has to say above the other voices in your mind. The other voices are banshees and drunken monkeys. They are the voices of anxiety, judgment, doom, guilt. Also, severe hypochondria. There may be a Nurse Ratched-like listing of things that must be done right this moment: foods that must come out of the freezer, appointments that must be canceled or made, hairs that must be tweezed. But you hold an imaginary gun to your head and make yourself stay at the desk. There is a vague pain a the base of your neck. It crosses your mind that you have meningitis. Then the phone rings and you look up at the ceiling with fury, summon every ounce of noblesse oblige, and answer the call politely, with maybe just the merest hint of irritation. The caller ask if you’re working, and you say yeah, because you are.

Yet somehow in the face of all this, you clear a space for the writing voice, hacking away at the others with machetes, and you begin to compose sentences. You begin to string words together like beads to tell a story. You are desperate to communicate, to edify or entertain, to preserve moments of grace or joy or transcendence, to make real or imagined events come alive. But you cannot will this to happen. It is a matter of persistence and faith and hard work. So you might as well just go ahead and get started.”

-Anne Lamott, Bird By Bird

Leave A Comment, Written on January 26th, 2012 , Fueling Creativity

NOTHIN’S GONNA HOLD ME DOWN

COTW – Nothin’s Gonna Hold Me Down from World Help on Vimeo.

This past Spring/Summer I produced an album for WorldHelp’s Children Of The World International Choir.

Traveling for WorldHelp was my first job out of college and it was so fun to work with them again and to collaborate with beautiful children on a great project. I feel incredibly humbled to be given opportunities to do WHAT I LOVE for WHO I LOVE. God is so good.

When working for WorldHelp, I had the opportunity to travel to India many times and even lived there at an orphanage for almost a year. In between recording sessions, sitting outside in the grass playing Uno with some of the kids I had such flashbacks to those days in the sunshine playing with the kids. God really did something to my heart in those days holding the Least of These on my lap on a daily basis. It changes you. It shifts perspective. And now, as a mom, it really moves me.

The song in the video above is one of the songs I wrote for their album…they are such amazing little muses!

If you’d like to hear more of the album you can do so here.

Leave A Comment, Written on January 15th, 2012 , LOVE & JUSTICE, Songs & Stuff

MUSIC VIDEO PROJECT
Project I’m working on for The Greatest Journey for my friend/videographer Larissa Miller with my good friend, co-worship leader at Watershed and musician Matthew Shaughnessy.After what started as a 1 minute song for an ad they were running for Christmas on TV, has now turned into a request to write a full version of the song as well as film a music video with a full band! Stay tuned for full version of the song with video and full band! Recorded/filmed at the beautiful Gat3 Studios here in Charlotte.

Leave A Comment, Written on January 1st, 2012 , Uncategorized

3 SONG SAMPLER :: FREE DOWNLOAD
October is my favorite month HANDS DOWN!!! I am feverishly attempting to save up to record some new songs I’ve written this year…but until then, I wanted to share some songs from my recent album, LOVE & JUSTICE, with you. You can DOWNLOAD THE SAMPLER HERE.
I also have a new stock of LOVE & JUSTICE tees (Men’s & Women’s sizes!) – they’d make a great Christmas gift (or Thanksgiving gift, if you’re into that sort of thing).

Love & Justice Tees

May you be silly enough to make candy-corn buckteeth and un-busy enough to stroll a pumpkin patch with someone you love before Winter arrives. God re-reminds me of Himself with each turning leaf, cooler breeze & crisp morning. And, for this New Englander in the South, relief from sweating and the arrival of scarf-weather is PURE JOY.  I love you all and so appreciate your support. HAPPY FALL!

 

STUDENTS OF THE CORN…FIELDS
I had the complete honor of being invited to return to my Alma Mater, Cedarville University, last week to lead worship and speak to the student body. This was the year of my 15 yr. reunion…so hard to believe (for me, at least). Although high school and college students make me nervous (because of my complete lack of coolness when I was a student), the warmth and reception I sensed on campus was humbling and completely overwhelming. Really, there’s no way to put into words what my four years at that small college (then…now it’s a university) in the cornfields has meant to me…the friends, the professors and faculty who poured into me and inspired me by their wisdom and passion for God. I also had the opportunity to lead worship with a band comprised of fantastic students, one of whom is releasing his own EP and is an amazing song/writer/singer/guitar player/worship leader: Hayden Browning. He has a kickstarter project worth supporting HERE. (I realized after we practiced together that his youth pastor was my friend in college, so that was sobering age-wise, ha!)

“The ‘Ville” made its mark on me…and although the saying around the school was always to have “quality stamped all over it” really, I left feeling as though Jesus had been stamped all over my experience. In the midst of praying about what to say to them I read THIS BLOG ENTRY by Donald Miller – where he said the best writing advice he’s ever received is “to love your reader” and it made me think that the same goes for a speaker/communicator: to really LOVE those to whom you are speaking. And I do…oh how I relate to where they are sitting and what they are experiencing! My one prayer throughout all the planning was “God, may they feel loved by you today in this”. And so, 15 years later, maybe not much wiser but definitely grateful for what God started in me in my time there, I wrote this prayer for the students there now…traipsing that puddle-filled (boy, I forgot about the vertical rain there!), beautiful campus today. And, it was my 2nd stab, 15 yrs later, at my not-so-eloquent Homecoming Speech of yore:

A BLESSING FOR THE CEDARVILLE UNIVERSITY STUDENT BODY

Students of Cedarville…

May your plans be interrupted, disrupted, rearranged.

May you find yourselves far outside your comfort zones.

May your waters be stirred and your weaknesses laid bare so that the beauty of God could be made more visible.

May all you lack be used by Him as well as all you have.

May your vulnerability be an act of worship.

May your Christ-centered minds be sharpened, hearts softened, eyes widened, hands opened and wills daily relinquished to Your King.

May you realize the seemingly serendipitous moments in your life have been orchestrated by an all-knowing, plan-having, loving Father.

May your own agendas not get in the way of God’s.

May these cornfields surrounding you be a constant reminder of the beautiful, sometimes confusing, truth-unearthing and life-altering season in which God has placed you to grow, become, thrive and catapult you into changing the world.

May your devotion to Jesus be unwavering.

If the moment your own dream dies and God’s dream for your life taking root has not yet arrived, may it soon.

May you with all boldness wave the white flag over your life and offer it to God as His loving channel meeting human needs needs to His glory.

May you not choose the path of least resistance but of greatest submission to Your Creator.

May every step you take across this campus, every credit hour accrued, every movement you make towards that moment your diploma is placed in your hands be another layer of your surrender to God.

May your cap thrown in the air your last day on this campus be your symbol of a life offered up, a lifetime of servanthood to the SERVANT OF ALL.

AMEN.

S.D.G.

Taryn Hofert · 9.28.11

-I love you, my future fellow alumni!

You can listen to the podcast of entire message HERE.

photo by Scott Huck

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LOVE & JUSTICE